Do you experience tension with your family around the holidays? Whether it is a heated discussion about with whom you will be spending the holidays, or how to field insults or judgments from your in-laws around the dinner table, family tension abounds this time of year. Why does family seem to be so difficult?
My survival tip this holiday when experiencing family drama is to really think about where this jealousy or passive aggressive behavior is coming from and try to understand the intention. It is usually coming from a good place, even though they may show it in a combative, unskillful way. This doesn’t mean you condone the behavior, but the understanding will make you feel less angry and stressed. This understanding is also sure to help you stop and realize that they just want to feel important and loved, just like you do. Maybe then you can give them what they need instead of getting defensive and drinking lots of alcohol.